5 Steps to Trust Yourself

Arnold Schwarzenegger said “trust yourself”. It can be challenging. Especially after making mistakes. Another source of problem is the odds against you. Everyone has a history. Some darker than others. The stories are either true or made up. It is hard to tell which is which. Don’t try to tell. Analyze it and form your own perspective. Everyone forms an opinion about yours – why shouldn’t you?

True stories teach us something. If it does not, then consider acknowledging the reason behind that story. Case studies about failure can shatters your confidence to move forward. They are conflicted with what you want to do, because they “proof” you wrong. Their stories were confounded and compelling. Everything they told you about their failures might be true. Nobody have intimate knowledge about it, expect for those around the person who wrote it. But researchers know that one way to critically analyze a story is researching why the person wrote it the way he or she did.

Statistics is a problem. Evidence against you makes it harder to progress. This opposing evidence is not necessarily wrong. Other people’s results won’t necessarily be yours. For example, we’ve heard stories of marketing strategies that yield nothing. When someone else tried the same strategies, they earns six figures. Every story about failure won’t necessarily means yours will be the same.

People have an idea about almost everything. We all know what is best for you. We tell our stories. We can even go the extra mile to make it looks like yours will be the same. Other people’s stories won’t damage you as much as your own perspectives. What I say about you is not as valuable as what you believe about yourself. Being called a failure does not necessarily makes you one. Believing it is wrong. That is why trusting yourself is challenging. These five steps makes trusting yourself easier.

 

1.      Know what they did wrong

Read the stories about failure. Don’t believe your situation will be the same. Ask objective questions. What did they do? Where did it went wrong? What did you learn by going through their stories? How will you do it?

 

2.      Face Yourself

You are your greatest obstacles. Jordan Belfort says “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the stories you keep telling yourself”. Look at every mistakes you made. Ask yourself what you’ve learned from them and your improvement. The best thing we know about life history is how it has shaped us. If not for yesterday, we won’t be in our current position.

 

3.      Reshape Yourself

Use your knowledge to reshape things into something you can learn from. Condemning yourself doesn’t help. You should only use what you learned to do things better. Because all mistakes that prevented success only means to start over – smarter.

 

4.      Plan

Set an achievable goal within a short period. Huge one consumes time. Plan that goal. Doing nothing means you don’t trust yourself. Plan means using everything you know to proof to yourself that you are better. Strategies turn our knowledge into a plan.

5.      Act with Trust

Actions with trust means you have a direct goal. Acting with trust for what you planned makes you success-driven. Don’t get distracted or compromise the goals. There is no short cut or perfect path to the goal. Remember you will learn on the way. Everything you learned taking actions is the driving power that in collaboration improve results. For example, something new might emerge, which boost the action’s productivity. The action enhance productivity, when it is direct-driven.

In conclusion, these five steps work best with persistent. Everything is in action, which makes determination necessary. Proof to yourself that you can do it. When you proof you can do little things, bigger things becomes attractive and trusting yourself boost your confidence, self-esteem and self-actualization.